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Support them in grief- Because they need you

19 November, 2021 Anuja Sahi

Grief may be extremely isolating and overwhelming. When a friend or family member passes away, they require your love and support more than before. If you are not sure how to assist a mourning friend, there are a number of simple things you may do to demonstrate compassion in their time of need.

Talking to someone who is grieving can be difficult- you may be concerned about contacting them or unsure of what to say. Friends and family, on the other hand, can make a person feel loved and supported.

Follow some of the tips given below to help someone who is grieving

  • Never avoid someone who has recently lost a loved one. It's confusing and disturbing. Texts, emails, and letters are all appropriate forms of communication; it's the point of contact that counts. You may feel afraid and alone as a result of your grief. If you're at a loss for words, simply saying "I'm sorry" can enough. However, if you have any recollections of the person who has passed away, they will be greatly appreciated, as there are no fresh memories once someone has passed away until someone shares theirs with you. Even if you've written or texted someone, always say something when you encounter them in person.
  • It's best to refrain from telling the grieving individual what they should or shouldn't do. Although such counsel is usually well-intentioned, it might make a bereaved person feel much worse. Instead, tell the recipient that you understand how devastating his or her loss is.
  • Everyone's grief process is different. Heavy waves of grief will ebb and flow. For your companion, there will be calmer minutes, hours, and days, as well as crashing ones. The first few years are the most difficult since it takes time to process such a significant loss. The longer a person is gone, the less we miss them, but we gradually accept that this is how it is.
  • It's difficult to know what to say when you're in the presence of someone who is mourning. Your natural instinct may be to attempt to make your friend feel better, but no amount of talking will help in a circumstance like bereavement.

Make sure to keep track of how much talking you're doing against how much listening you're doing. Talking about your friend's feelings will benefit them more than anything else. Listen to their thoughts and feelings, and try to reduce their anxiety and strerss and offer empathy for what they're going through while they go through the grieving process.

  • When we are aware that someone is distressed, it is natural to desire to help them. The reality is that you can't 'repair' someone's sadness after they've lost a loved one. There are no words that can make a grieving person feel better about their loss, but there are things you can do to offer comfort and support during this tough time.
  • Sending a letter or flowers, bringing a meal, assisting with laundry or shopping, or setting up a regular date to listen and offer support can be a big source of comfort to a bereaved individual.
  • The ability to express great sadness and allow oneself to grieve is one of the most fundamental parts of the grieving process. Allowing your friend to cry demonstrates that you recognize that sobbing is a normal part of the grieving process.

While it may be tempting to try to cheer up your friend or encourage them not to cry, remember that crying is a necessary part of the grieving and healing process. When people are prevented from crying, it's often because they're afraid of what others will think if they see them in that much agony. Consider tears as an essential element of the healing process.

Conclusion

This a true fact that someone who has lost special one will never be able to forget and will always be in grieving state, but however at the time for the sake of humanity they need closed ones and family member to be close to them because this is the time they really need you.