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Pregnancy loss - It's hard but has to come out strongly

13 October, 2021 Anuja Sahi

Pregnancy loss is heartbreaking no matter when it occurs or under what condition it occurs. Healing, on the other hand, takes time. Allow yourself to grieve and accept your pregnancy loss before turning your attention to the future.

When you lose a pregnancy, it’s natural to experience shock, melancholy, guilt, rage, and feelings of failure and vulnerability. The days, weeks and even months after a miscarriage can be especially tough and traumatic, especially if this isn’t your first pregnancy loss or if you meticulously planned this pregnancy and believed you’d done everything “right.” Alternatively, you may simply feel withdrawn and moody, unable to focus or sleep.

Feelings you may experience after pregnancy loss

When you lose a child, you will go through a vast range of emotions. It’s possible that you will feel numb at first, or that you will find it difficult to accept it’s genuine. You may have feelings of rage, grief, perplexity, and depression. Physical symptoms include difficulties sleeping or a desire to sleep all the time, difficulty focusing, loss of appetite, and a lot of crying.

When a baby is lost, many women claim they feel guilty, or they feel jealous and resentful. All of these feelings are perfectly natural. It can be beneficial to acknowledge all of your sentiments while also remembering that they will pass.

Cause of Pregnancy loss

A random event in which the embryo obtains an incorrect number of chromosomes causes around half of all cases of early pregnancy loss. Chromosomes are gene-carrying structures found inside cells. Most cells have 46 chromosomes, which are divided into 23 pairs. Each sperm cell and egg cell has 23 chromosomes come together. An improper number of chromosomes in an egg or sperm will result in an aberrant number of chromosomes in the embryo. The pregnancy may not develop normally, resulting in the loss of the pregnancy.

Ways to deal with grief after a pregnancy loss

Let us first find out the grieving process

  • Not ready to accept: This is the most heart-wrenching stage, it is very hard to accept what has happened. You and your family members might found yourself in a sudden state of shock and disbelief.
  • Guilty feeling: There will always be guilt feeling inside you especially the parents that they could have done something to save their child. Thoughts might surround the ways you could have tried to save your child.
  • Anger and frustration: Anyone of us can go through pregnancy loss, try to make yourself understand that no one is responsible for the loss. Talk openly and honestly with your family members and especially with your partner. It may be possible that your partner may not be expressing his grief but however; feeling it very badly from inside. It’s important to remember that there is no right or wrong way to deal with grief. Accept your emotions as they are and don’t pass judgment on yourself or your partner based on how you react.
  • Give time to a team: Like you, time also needs time to heal. Everything has its own time to get settled down. Don’t force yourself to get normal as soon as possible. You feel find yourself more comfortable when you deal with grief as it comes to you, instead of trying to mould it according to you.
  • Don’t break the connection to mourn your loss: Although it may be difficult to talk about, sharing your experience makes you feel less alone and aids in your recovery. You might be astonished to learn how many of your coworkers, cousins, neighbors, and acquaintances have experienced loss and recovery. And you might discover support and understanding from unexpected sources, which can help compensate for the fact that some people you expected to understand don’t seem to grasp how much you are suffering.
    Someone who has not experienced what you are going through can’t truly understand what you are going through. Most individuals want to offer something reassuring but are at a loss for words. If they say the incorrect thing or nothing at all, try not to take it personally.

Plan and hope for a better future

Many women who have lost a pregnancy go on to have healthy pregnancies. Once the pain of your loss has subsided, you and your spouse can discuss whether or not to try for a second pregnancy and, if so, when you would like to do so. Another pregnancy may bring up memories of your previous miscarriage, but it may also give you hope for the future.