Post-Sex Blues in Men and Women

15 January, 2021 Deepika Chakraborty

Talking about intimate moments or sexual intercourse is believed to be a taboo in many regions around the world. This makes most people afraid of talking about such issues that they face in their personal lives. Sexual intercourse is not only important for reproduction but it also enhances pleasure in a relationship. It keeps the relationship healthy and happy.

However, what if couples are not happy or satisfied even after having consensual intercourse? This phenomenon indicates post-sex blues. A discussion on post-sex blues is significant to make people enlightened about the issue and the ways to fight this condition.

What are Post Sex Blues?

The condition of post-sex blues is also known as Postcoital Dysphoria (PCD). It is a term that describes a negative emotion that develops after a desired intercourse. In this condition, people sense sadness, irritability, depression, anxiety, or agitation after having consensual intercourse with a partner of their own choice.

Post-Sex Blues in Men and Women

Postcoital Dysphoria or post-sex blues can be experienced by women and men equally. Many case studies have proven that both men and women face post-sex blues once in their lifetime. However, earlier there was a myth that only women deal with this syndrome. But increasing researchers are proving the statement wrong.

What Causes Post Sex Blues or Postcoital Dysphoria?

According to some researchers, the following factors could be the reason for post-sex blues:

1) Hormonal inconsistency: Intercourse between two partners prepares their bodies to release dopamine. However, post the sexual activity to fight these levels, the body again releases a hormone called prolactin. Therefore, the sudden drop in the dopamine level is linked to postcoital dysphoria or post-sex blues. This is further regulated by an unexpected recognition of being detached from the partner due to the fall in the hormonal levels that results in frustration or sadness.

2) Personal opinion about sex: People who consider themselves unconsciously guilty thinking about sex in general, might experience PCD as a result. This is more likely in people who have grown up in extremely critical or conservative families and communities, where sex is considered taboo, immoral, or dirty.

3) Past trauma or abuse: People who have suffered sexual assault or abuse in the past gives rise to vulnerable feelings of guilt and fear. They associate the trauma with the later sexual encounters, even within a consensual relationship. Also, a particular way of being touched or positioned also triggers postcoital dysphoria or post-sex blues.

4) Stress or other psychological distress: Stressful life, anxiety, and depression can trigger postcoital dysphoria or post-sex blues.

How to Prevent Post Sex Blues or Postcoital Dysphoria?

It is difficult to deal with post-sex blues or postcoital dysphoria by oneself. It is a condition that affects a person both physically and mentally. However, the following steps may help in dealing with the condition more easily:

1) Talking to a friend: Having an open conversation about this condition with a friend or peer can relieve the stress or burden associated with it as people in the same age group sometimes face similar issues.

2) Consulting a doctor: Consulting a doctor about these issues is an effective idea due to the protected space and medical understanding that a doctor provides. The patient-doctor privacy rules help the patient to discuss these issues with a doctor without the fear of being judged.

3) Taking care of the hormonal balance in your body: Avoiding stress-related activities or engaging in activities that help the body fight depression and anxiety can help in maintaining the normal hormone levels in the body. Regular exercise will also help release hormones associated with happiness and wellbeing in the brain. This in turn helps in maintaining normal hormonal levels.

4) Talking to the partner: Talking to the partner is vital in getting over with the post- sex blues. Talking to the partner helps in releasing unnecessary tension between the two and understanding each other’s situation better.

5) Having a diet that helps in reducing stress-related to post-sex blues: Having the right type of food may help in fighting PCD. Some of the recommended food items include:

  • Apples
  • Pumpkin seeds
  • Green tea
  • Red wine
  • Spinach
  • Dark chocolate

Post sex blues are very common and people experiencing them should not consider themselves abnormal or guilty. Post sex blues can be tamed with the right attitude towards life and your partner. Consulting with a doctor can help couples rejuvenate their relationship and find the missing spark in their sexual desires.


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